Temenos Journal II

October 14, 2016

Why Trump’s accusers didn’t come forward sooner

Filed under: Feminism,Politics,Spiritual Activism — by Genie Webster @ 3:35 pm
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I’m an average middle-aged woman… average looks, average build, above-average intelligence, talent, and competence. I don’t know what the national average is for women who have been degraded and inappropriately toyed with in the workplace, but I can speak from my own experience. It’s happened to me at least three times that I can clearly remember.

Yes, I’ve been fired from a job I loved because I spoke out about inappropriate behavior towards me by the president of a company for which I worked. What he did would not be considered harassment and it was not illegal, but it made me uncomfortable. It made me not want to be in a room alone with him. In retrospect, I regret explaining to my immediate supervisor why I stopped having one-on-one meetings with the boss. The company offered me two months salary when they let me go, but only if I would sign an agreement not to say anything negative about the company. Of course I signed the agreement. I was losing my job and I needed the money.

That’s why we don’t speak up. We know that if it’s our word against his, we will never win. Men in power know that working women can’t usually afford to lose their jobs, so we rarely speak up. We just shake our heads and walk away disgusted, while we look for another job or a way to get out of the situation. Not everyone has the luxury of just walking away from a paycheck.

I’m proud of Trump’s victims coming forward. I understand why they waited. There is strength in numbers. Women’s stories are being validated and perhaps our collective self esteem will be healed from talking about what we’ve had to endure.

Donald Trump, your attitude towards women and the way you’ve treated them is not okay. You are a lousy role model for our sons and brothers. Instead of taking responsibility for your actions and apologizing, you accuse your victims of lying. Just  sit down and shut the fuck up. Or change.

 

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October 4, 2014

Surrendering Judgment

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Surrendering Judgment

by Paul Ferrini

One of the most important spiritual practices
is to let things be as they are without interpretation,
without embellishment, without judgment.
That immediately gives the ego a coronary.

Imagine telling the ego it cannot judge, compare, interpret?
What then is it going to do?
It doesn’t really know how to do anything else.

As soon as we try to tell the ego not to judge
a whole new layer of judgment comes up.
But that’s why the process is so rich.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

Surrendering Judgment

Surrendering Judgment

by Paul Ferrini

One of the most important spiritual practices
is to let things be as they are without interpretation,
without embellishment, without judgment.
That immediately gives the ego a coronary.

Imagine telling the ego it cannot judge, compare, interpret?
What then is it going to do?
It doesn’t really know how to do anything else.

As soon as we try to tell the ego not to judge
a whole new layer of judgment comes up.
But that’s why the process is so rich.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

May 20, 2014

You can’t judge a book by its cover

Filed under: Branding,Business,Reno,Sales,Spiritual Activism — by Genie Webster @ 1:35 pm
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Every time I hear the expression “You can’t judge a book by its cover,” I’m reminded of the smart aleck guy in high school who said, “Well then take your cover off!”

You really can’t judge a book by its cover. I learned that when I was selling motorized scooters to handicapped people in their homes. They would see the “Free Scooter” commercial on TV and they would call the 800 number to see if they qualified. Sometimes they got talked into agreeing to see an in-home salesperson who would try to sell them a scooter (hardly anyone qualifies for a free scooter).

I would get my assignments by email every morning and I would load up my van and go. One morning I got an assignment to visit a woman way up in the hills of Northern California… north of Grass Valley in a very rural area (off Jackass Flats Road — I’m not kidding). I could not find my customer’s address. This area was so remote that I did not get any cell phone coverage… so I had to drive until I could pick up a signal.

When I finally got ahold of my customer, she said that she would meet me at a certain juncture in her pick-up truck, and that I should follow her up the mountain, which I did.

As we were driving up the winding mountain road, I was wondering what on earth I was doing driving a van full of power scooters up the mountain to who-knows-where. After what seemed like 20 minutes or so, my customer finally pulled off the road and parked at what looked like a hippie camp. There were piles of lumber and tents and what looked like a construction trailer.

“We’re living in the trailer while we build our home,” explained the customer, who walked with a cane towards the trailer. “We can meet in here.” She had to make room for me to sit down. Her partner (another woman) joined us and I said to myself “Oh dear lord these poor people will never be able to afford this $3000 scooter.”

The woman had been injured in an accident and wanted the scooter to help her get around the property so that she can build their home. I did my job… I showed her the sales pitch… I gave her a demo ride… and I asked for the order, even though I did not have high expectations of a sale.

The woman excused herself, while she and her partner went to the back of the trailer for a private conference. I started packing up my stuff to head back down the mountain. When the woman returned, she had an envelope with $3000 cash.

You can’t judge a book by its cover!

The next day, I received an assignment to visit a woman who lived south of Reno, in Palamino Valley. My GPS sent me up into the mountains, climbing and climbing up Whiskey Springs Road. I could see a huge house up the mountain. “Eureka!” I thought to myself. “People with money,” I assumed.

The closer I got to the house, the more I saw how huge and well-built it was. The property was more like an estate, with multiple buildings and horses and barns.

When I met my prospect, she was a 60ish woman, who walked with a cane. An elderly woman was sitting in a recliner in the living room. “That’s my mother, who lives here with me. I care for her.”

The further I got into the house, the more I saw how things were a wreck… crayon marks on the walls… debris and junk everywhere. I could hear kids running and playing in the background. “Those are my grandchildren,” the woman explained. “My 40-year old daughter and her children live here with me too.”

Her husband was in a nursing home, recovering from a stroke and she was trying to take care of a household of six people while crippled. She wanted to buy a scooter desperately.

When she was turned down for financing, she cried.

You can’t judge a book by its cover!

Whether it’s in sales or any area in life… Do not impose limitations by jumping to the wrong conclusions too soon.

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March 6, 2014

Open Your Heart

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Have you ever had the experience of getting to know someone better after they had died? That’s happened to me a couple of times.

The first time was when someone I hardly knew suddenly passed away. He was a friend of a friend and I had only met him one time, but we seemed to have an immediate connection. The day after he died, I was daydreaming… doing some kind of chore in the kitchen when I sensed the presence of this new acquaintance. He was like hanging out with me, cross-legged on my kitchen counter, He had a warm and gentle presence, but powerful. He wanted me to tell our mutual friend that it wasn’t our friend’s fault. I asked him, “Why me? Why don’t you tell him yourself?” and he answered that our friend would not believe it was really him. He wanted me to tell our friend that it was okay… it wasn’t his fault. Of course I did the best I could to communicate that to my living friend.

My new deceased friend stayed connected to me for a while. He taught me a lot about continuing a connection and a friendship from the “other” side… and to even grow in love and understanding. He faded away from my conscious awareness after our mutual friend finally got his message about forgiving himself (or was it me?).

Losing a loved one… whether through death, divorce, estrangement…. is inevitable. We are going to be physically separated sooner or later. We are going to endure heartbreaking disconnects and estrangements. But we never lose our heart connections. And reconciliation and reunion are inevitable in the long run.

The best song I’ve ever heard about cherishing the love connection even beyond death is the theme from the movie “My Heart Will Go On” by James Horner. I had to rehearse that song about 50 times before I could sing it in public without crying… that’s how it touches my heart because it recognizes the truth – “My heart will go on and on…”

Yes, we can stay connected to loved ones by keeping our hearts open in expectation of the miracle. We can open our hearts wherever we are….

Open Your Heart  

by Genie Webster
 






I had a mama… and when we laid her down to rest,
I went wandering around, looking for her, I guess.
Then I heard a whisper. She said, “Honey, whatcha looking for?
I’ve been here all along… knocking at your door. 
You can…

Open Your Heart… wherever you are.
Love’s the same though we have changed,
And we’re together though apart.
Open Your Heart.

I had a vision… where all my dreams had come true.
We were all for One and One for All with You.
Keep on believing… that the best is yet to come.
And walk hand in hand with a Heart that carries on.
You can…

Open Your Heart… wherever you are.
Love’s the same though we have changed,
And we’re together though apart.
Open Your Heart.

Now I’ll be leaving… I’m leaving friends and family,
The home I love, my whole life history.
But I’m not grieving… ‘cause I’ll never be far away
I’m connected to the hearts of the ones who’ve heard me say…
You can…

Open Your Heart… wherever you are.
Love’s the same though we have changed,
And we’re together though apart.
Open Your Heart… wherever you are.
Love’s the same though we have changed,
And we’re together though apart.
Open Your Heart!

See the music video here.

(c) copyright 2013 Genie Webster

June 6, 2013

On Relationships and Entwinement

Filed under: Spiritual Activism,Temenos Journal — by Genie Webster @ 4:13 pm
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What differentiates a relationship from a love affair or a friendship?

You know you are in a relationship when some aspect of your life is entwined
with another person’s. (Thanks to my friend and fellow writer John Haynes for the
perfect word — entwined — to describe this condition.)

For the purposes of this exploration, let’s set aside (for now) the business
relationship — such as coworkers, vendor/customer, teacher/student, doctor/patient, boss/employee, etc. The people involved in business relationships are indeed entwined, but their agreements are mostly spoken or written contracts with one another.

For the purposes of exploring this idea, let’s think about relationships where there
are no contracts, just entwinements.

If you are lovers with someone, then you connect with one another when you want
to, and leave when you want to. The same applies to friends,

If you are in a relationship with someone, then your Saturday nights (for
example) are entwined with theirs. Your holidays and vacations are entwined with
theirs. Perhaps your finances and book collections are also entwined with theirs.

If you are in a relationship with someone, you celebrate holidays and birthdays together. You call because you are expected to call. You feel obligated sometimes. There are expectations.

You don’t necessarily have to be romantically involved to be in an entangled relationship. I have a friend who denies he is in a relationship with a woman who calls him nearly every day… sometimes at 1:00 am…  and with whom he goes out regularly. She depends on him for companionship. He feels obligated sometimes, but he goes along with her. They are in a relationship because there are expectations, and an ongoing social entanglement.

Relationships can be healthy and can be a source of great joy, spiritual growth,
and comfort in a sometimes unfriendly world. But when relationships are not
healthy, they can kick yo ass.

I’ve been in four long-term relationships in my life, each one lasting about
five years. In one case I was the dumper and in the other three cases I was the
dumpee. In all cases I had to take some time to recover in between
relationships.

Some people hop from one relationship to another, never pausing to assess the
damages and repair whatever has been broken or weakened. Some people come out of a broken relationship bitter, jaded, and with low self esteem. There is spiritual and emotional work to be done — without the distraction of a new relationship — before you can possibly make a responsible and clear choice about a new partner. In fact, if you are broken or unhealthy yourself, you are likely to attract a broken and unhealthy partner.

Everyone goes through phases in life when they are wounded from a big loss or a
health problem or any other aspect of human suffering. Hopefully, if we are in a
healthy relationship when hard times hit, our partner has the strength to pick
up the slack and hold us up while we are knocked down. That is one benefit of
being emotionally entwined with a strong and whole partner. Where relationships
fail is when both partners are wounded, or weakened, at the same time. Then the
relationship can endure only through a miracle, or by pure faith alone.

Relationships are like anything else organic: They have their seasons. They
start off in the springtime of the honeymoon infatuation, and often make it
through the sunshine of summer. But things start drying out and dying in the
autumn, and they appear to be dead in winter. And autumn and winter are
inevitable in the wheel of life and in the course of a relationship.

The trick to sustaining a relationship through the wintertime is to prepare for
it and to simply endure it. Prepare for it by keeping photos and memories of
summertime happiness and storing those up to help rekindle the flame in winter.
That way, when you think things are dead, you can endure by having the wisdom
and faith to know that it is only winter, not the end.

Of course, if one person decides to kill a relationship, and their mind is made
up about it, there is no hope of sustaining the relationship, so you might as
well let it go.

I have come to the conclusion that it is our responsibility, as adults, to find
out where we are wounded and to tend to those wounds before bringing them into a
new relationship. And if you fall in love with someone and want to enter into a
relationship with a partner who is wounded or weak or unhealthy, encourage them
to heal and get whole… before you get entwined. Ultimately, that is the most
loving and the most human thing we can do for one another.

April 2, 2013

Free Falling as Spiritual Practice

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The willingness to free fall for a while is necessary when you take a leap.

Who can break through to the next level without taking a leap? No one. To be able to free fall peacefully is required in order to break out from where you seem to be stuck.

You will not die if you practice free falling in your mind. No one gets hurt and if you imagine the feeling and vibration of free falling vividly… that’s as effective of a practice as bungee jumping or sky diving.

When my former husband and I came to the decision to divorce, we decided to commemorate the event by taking sky diving lessons and jumping from a plane. I can honestly say that yes, I experienced physically free falling from 20,000 feet up in the sky… but I knew I had a parachute. I don’t think it’s really free falling if you have a safety net.

Free falling is letting go of any attempt at control.

Free falling is emptying your mind of all thought.

Free falling is riding the wave while becoming the wave.

This video gave me a whole new perspective on free falling:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VlUNevsIgE4

February 18, 2013

Out of the Matrix

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I took the weekend intensive “Out of the Matrix” workshop because I was pulled intuitively to do it, and my friends at Unity Center all encouraged me to attend. It’s something most everyone does around there.

There is so much to write about and I will… It’s all still processing and unfolding. Let’s just say that nothing has upset me since that weekend. Nothing has even irritated me. Plus I’m energetic and motivated to do good productive stuff. My happiness has been amplified and so far it’s sticking.

So many stories and so much good news….

It all starts with the movie “The Matrix.” Watching the movie is highly recommended for students because there are a lot of teaching gems in the movie (in between the creative action scenes!). Also, a lot of characters from the movie are used for teaching purposes.

So two nights before the workshop I finally put the DVD in the player and I lasted about an hour before I fell asleep (typical, I’m afraid). I finished watching the movie the next day, the day before the workshop… so it was fresh in my mind as I headed to the workshop.

The hero of the movie is the Keanu Reeves character named Neo. For some reason, the Neo character in the movie reminded me a lot of one of my new friends at Unity, and I knew he was one of the teachers in the Out of the Matrix workshop.

As I was driving to the workshop, I found myself daydreaming about Neo in the movie, who morphed into his human counterpart at my church (I have a vivid imagination!)… and so I started sort of wishing that I would get lucky enough to be paired up with this Neo-type guy as my “mentor” (coach in the program). Of course, once I arrived at the workshop, I snapped out of my fantasy and buckled down to… reality. 🙂

You can imagine the wide-eyed, ear-to-ear grin I must have had when the earthly Neo approached me and introduced himself as my mentor!

All I could say was, “For the whole weekend?”

That was only the beginning…

I recommend this workshop to everyone who’s ready to get out of their own way and be consistently happy already:

http://www.outofthematrix.org/

February 14, 2013

Confucius Say II…

Filed under: A Course in Miracles,Forgiveness,Spiritual Activism,Temenos Journal — by Genie Webster @ 3:26 pm
Confucius Purple Heart

“To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.” – Confucius

February 13, 2013

Confucius Say…

Confucius Heart

“If you look into your heart and you find nothing wrong there, what is there to worry about? What is there to fear?” -Confucius

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