Temenos Journal II

June 4, 2012

Forgive Your Mother’s Dysfunctional Mother

I never claimed to be a perfect mother.

But I was a better mother to my daughter than my mother was to me. My mother was a better mother to me than her mother was to her. And my daughter will be a better mother to her daughter than I was to her. It seems that as we evolve, each generation is better at parenting than the last.

Hopefully, we are contributing to the betterment of civilization as a whole by our generational evolution within our families.

Let us forgive the ones that made mistakes before our all-knowingness came to rule our worlds.




  1. Learning to forgive our mothers…and their mothers before them…is one of the most freeing and beautiful experiences a woman can have. (in my humble opinion)

    Comment by Stacy Alexander, Writer/Artist — June 4, 2012 @ 5:47 pm |Reply

  2. This short blog was misunderstood by someone I care a lot about.. I have totally forgiven my mother for “dysfunction” in the ancient past. In fact, I can laugh about a lot of my mother’s quirks, which she ultimately outgrew. I have tender compassion for my mother because of the lack of healthy mothering she suffered with her own mother who was a chronic, practicing alcoholic. Bless my mother’s heart for what she endured and how much I admire what she overcame. There was definitely some woundedness for my mother to work through, and it wasn’t always a smooth journey. The whole point of this blog was to express appreciation for the dysfunction as an opportunity to rise above and move past. And it’s our woundedness (sometimes referred to as dysfunction) that gives us our interesting quirks and makes us… funny. My whole family is very funny. Thanks, Mom!

    Comment by Genie Webster — June 5, 2012 @ 9:38 am |Reply

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  4. If your arectlis are always this helpful, “I’ll be back.”

    Comment by Carrie — January 4, 2015 @ 1:08 pm |Reply

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